How do pathological sociopaths deal with their guilt? They force their hang-ups on everyone else and enact all sorts of prohibitions.
The next time you hear someone rage against and condemn alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, heroin, meth, gays, prostitutes, etc… you should realize it very well could mean that person uses those drugs, is GLBT, and/or frequents prostitutes.
In-the-Closet hypocrisy is a big problem in the religious community, as well as society at large, all around the world. There are people who have such huge guilt complexes that they abuse others due to their own feelings of guilt, shame, and inadequacy.
This essay is not out to condemn people who are “In-the-Closet.” This essay is about the people who speak out against something, the very thing they work hard to hide from others.
Swear This or Sign This Paper
Often the In-the-Closet Hypocrites go to lengths to deceive others about their closeted behaviors, they will pressure you to swear oaths, or create contracts for you to sign.
Be wary of people (or just plain avoid them) who try to get you to sign papers saying you will not do a thing, or to make you pledge to not do a thing. Jesus speaks about these types of people in Matthew 23 and Matthew 5.
Matthew 23:3-7 (NIV)
[…] But do not do what [the hypocrites] do, for they do not practice what they preach.
They tie up heavy loads and put them on men’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.
Everything they do is done for [others] to see: They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long [in other words they dress fancy, wear flag pins and don lots of other insignia to show their status and beliefs]; they love the place of honor at banquets and the most important seats in the synagogues; they love to be greeted in the marketplaces […]
These are also the people who try to get you to swear to all sorts of things, they’re not satisfied with a simple “yes” or “no.” [Matthew 5:34-37] They want you to be like them and go on and on at length. They would probably even smile greatly if you proclaimed it “by the right hand of God I promise …”
So here is a short list of people who were busy trying to ruin — or actively doing so — other people’s lives while they committed the very acts they condemned. This is just the “short list” off the top of my head. If you want me to publish others, just send me a note, you don’t need to give me your (real) email address.
Republican Congressman Mark Souder — The sick man who seemed to take pleasure in his Holier-Than-Thou attitude of forcibly halting the college studies of students who were actually in school and actually wanted to be there, but he took pleasure in screwing them out of their financial aid if they were caught with some drugs. Surely Mark Souder was some sort of closet druggie and had a serious guilt complex, but it didn’t seem to come to light, maybe his drug was due to his self-righteous attitude, or perhaps it was due to his sex organs; that in-the-closet behavior did come to light.
Yes, not only was he “a member of the House oversight and government reform committee. He participated in an April 2008 hearing at which he was one of the only voices in the room speaking in defense of abstinence education.” Ah, there we go, more hypocrites forcing their personal hang-ups on the rest of us. What’s the best way to deal with the guilt of having sex with one of your staff, be outspoken against sex!
Reverend Ted Haggard, President of the National Association of Evangelicals — How do you deal with the guilt of feeling gay (and hiring gay prostitutes) in a society which condemns gays? Well, some people seem to think the thing to do is lead the charge in the condemnation of gays, won’t that throw people off the trail of realizing you’re gay or have gay feelings?
I don’t recall hearing him engaging on a tirade against drugs, specifically crystal meth, but he probably did have angry words to say about drugs and drug users, but that was eclipsed by the gay issue.
That’s all I have time for at the moment, but if you send me names and links I’ll update this essay at some point.
The point of this essay is not to try to shame any specific person. The point of this essay is to make you realize that even though someone rages against a thing, it could very well mean that person does it regularly, or engages in a related activity. So view with great suspicion the Drug Warriors and the Prohibitionists who rage on and on against drugs, there is a long history of guilt-plagued wolves in sheep’s clothing who condemn the very thing they do in secret.